The Secret to a Happy Marriage is.......

Woo Hoo, more ridiculous research results, bet you can’t wait to see what I’m going to dig up next….

This piece of stunning research is by the University of Virginia’s National Marriage Project where they asked 2800 married people about generosity.

The punch line is the more generous the spouse is, the happier the other person is. In fact much more so than those who had married a self-centred asshole.

Wow, what about that for a revelation now? I had worked that out already and I don’t work at a University in Virginia or any other place for that matter.

Dr W Bradford Wilcox said that (I kid you not) if people share things like housework, childcare etc that it goes a long way to contributing to the happiness of the marriage but extra unexpected generosity (the virtue of giving good things to one’s spouse freely and abundantly according to the New York Times) brings about real happiness.

So it turns out that Marie Claire, Cosmo and all the other women’s magazine were wrong, apparently you actually don’t actually have to be able to carry out sexual gymnastics non stop to keep your man, you really only have to be nice to him.

Fancy that then eh? Who knew?

Hope Demi has 'Another Happy Day'

Over the past couple of days I have read so many news articles/stories and columnists writing about how Demi Moore should never have expected her marriage to Ashton Kutcher to last any length of time because of the age difference.

The Daily Mail has Amanda Platell as a columnist sometimes I think she has overdosed on the smugness pills from the bathroom cabinet. The basis of her column article regarding the separation of Demi and Ashton is ‘told you so’.

Amanda then goes on to say Demi Moore had plastic surgery to keep her younger lover happy. I’m not sure that I remember reading THAT particular interview with Demi, so if anyone else can find it, please let me know.

Anyway even if Demi did get plastic surgery to keep Ashton happy, should we not be supporting her in a tree-hugging-hippy way, reassuring her that she needn’t have bothered because she is beautiful anyway?



The rumour mill is working overtime on this particular divorce though, not only has Ashton has been shagging other people, Demi is bi-sexual and into threesomes and they have an open marriage according to Chelsea Handler.


Whatever has caused the breakdown of their marriage is it really our business? I know that I sure as hell wouldn’t want people to keep guessing at which party is to blame for what.

I do agree with Amanda Platell on one part of her article and that is successful marriages do come from having a shared history complete with joys and hardship. Hinting that Demi and Ashton don’t have a shared history because of an age difference is a lot of crap, it is still possible.

I mean, when it comes to history you have got to start somewhere!

Lets be honest, their marriage has lasted much much longer than Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries……

KIM'S KARDASHIAN KAOS

Kris found it easy to rest his pint on Kim's head

I like a bit of ‘Keeping up with the Kardashians’ on E! It’s a bit like my little dirty secret that I try not to let anyone know.

I will admit that I lay along the couch with my cup of coffee and watched Kim’s fairytale wedding to Kris Humphries. That was for all the back-to-back shows leading up to and including the wedding.

There were a few things that I noticed when watching the series, the first was how shockingly tall Kris Humphries is (6ft 9in). That is one tall guy and quite a height difference with Kim who is supposedly around 5ft 2ish.

I’m not suggesting for one moment that height difference is the cause of a marriage break up as I am sure there must be more to it than that, or at least I sincerely hope so!

Anyway, I realised, while watching the episodes leading up to the wedding that I was really feeling sorry for Kris Humphries. He seems a nice guy, kind, generous and one who was beginning to crack under the Kardashian pressure.

Marriage means different things to different people but to me it means that you have someone there to support, love and care for you no matter what. But realistically what place does Kris Humphries have when the Kardashian Klan are providing that already?

Unfortunately I don’t think Kris Humphries had a snowballs chance in hell against the rest of the family. Maybe if they had all sat down and had a chat with fellow reality celebs Kendra and Hank Baskett they may have got on a bit better.

Kendra & Hank 'keepin it real

Yesterday Kimmy K said "After careful consideration, I have decided to end my marriage. I hope everyone understands this was not an easy decision. I had hoped this marriage was forever but sometimes things don't work out as planned. We remain friends and wish each other the best."

Then Kris H had to issue a statement which said "I love my wife and am devastated to learn she filed for divorce," take it she didn’t actually speak to him about it then?

Sorry Kris you obviously don’t fit in with their lifestyle and aren’t photogenic enough so you’ve been written out of the next series.

There ends the marriage of Kris Humphries and Kim Kardashian, to think, I’ve had fruit last longer in the fridge……




Article By:  Lynn Tulloch